Conscious Parenting: 3 Ways We Can Transform The Way We Parent

Earlier we shared that Conscious Parenting is a TRANSFORMATIVE JOURNEY.

To get started, we’d like to share 3 examples of transformations that we can experience when we practice conscious parenting.

Part 1: From Unconscious to Conscious

To be unconscious is to live, think and act from the patterns of our past; to be unaware that the voices in our head could be voices from our upbringing (such as the expectations of parents and peers and scripts from our society and culture).

To be conscious is to grow in self-awareness of our patterns, to be able to observe ourselves in the moment, and to transcend our automatic/reactive responses so that we can parent our child in a way that truly meets his or her unique needs.

Part 2: From Being Child-focused to Parent-focused

When we are always child-focused, we tend to be outward-looking. From a position of authority, we look out at our child as someone we need to guide and mold into “good” children (whatever good means to us). Misbehavior is seen as a fault of the child and is corrected through discipline.

When we become parent-focused, we turn our attention to ourselves and commit to better ourselves by doing inner work, processing our reactions and triggers, acknowledging unhealthy patterns and then trying to transcend them so that we can create a healthier psychological space for our child.

Misbehavior can be seen as a chance to check our side of the relationship, “Have I been connecting with my child? Am I understanding of her unique personality and current stage of development? Am I creating a conducive environment with healthy boundaries? Am I being reactive? Why? What issues do I need to address within myself?”

Part 3: From Projection to Attunement

If we don’t have insight into our unconscious patterns, we might project these unto our child. For example, if academic success was important to us growing up, we might push our child for academic success. Or we could be imprinting onto the child our own checklist for a “successful life” or “acceptable” characteristics. But these might be different from her true nature.

We can be attuned with our child when we understand that she is a separate being from us, and that she has her own unique experiences, personality, temperament, thoughts, interests, and going through her own stages of development.

We may ask ourselves, “What are the unique needs of my child? How are we the same? How are we different? How can I respect our differences? How can I connect with her and make her feel accepted? How can I help her thrive as her true self?”

“Am I reacting from an unconscious place? Am I projecting my beliefs and issues? How can I transcend this?”

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These are just the tip of the iceberg of what conscious parenting is all about.

If you’re interested to learn more, be sure to sign up for the event - the official launch of Conscious Parenting PH on November 20.

Iñaki and Kit Llamas Malvar (Kit is a certified Conscious Parenting Coach), together with a panel of global Conscious Parent coaches, will share with us their journey and how Conscious Parenting became a profound experience for them, their community members, and how we can join the movement and start our CP adventure together!

Register here now for this FREE retreat:

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